“Betwixt optimist and pessimist, the difference is droll. The optimist sees the doughnut and the pessimist sees the hole”. If you are losing out on friends, and a life because you are a chronic pessimist, time do something about it. You can actually turn the pessimist in you into an optimist by following a few tips.
Here’s what you can do:
- Don’t try hard to make yourself happy. Being happy is like falling in love. You can’t try to make yourself fall in love! Just try to keep yourself engaged so you don’t have all the time in the world to sit and obsess over little problems and concerns. Keep your mind actively involved in doing things you like. Don’t leave a space for ill thoughts to creep into your system.
- Pessimists generally exaggerate things in their head. A slightly unusual headache for example can seem like an impending brain tumour. The trick is to blow it up so much that it starts to look absurd and illogical. Humor (almost) always helps side-line negativity.
- Don’t blame yourself for everything. It’s easy to think you were responsible for the bad that came to you. Dwelling on it is harbouring negativity. Instead shift your focus from the blows to how you will go about bettering the situation. And when you concentrate on the solution, you stop assuming it is going to get worse.
- Get rid of your tendency to give up when things get tough. Work harder till you reap good results. It’s difficult you say, but tell you what, the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ thing works. When you become an optimist even temporarily, it has an instantaneous effect on your emotional state instigating a change.
- Surround yourself with optimists. When you have positive people around you, their positive vibe rubs off on you too and acts as an armour against unnecessary popping of negative feelings.
There! Now go see the glass half full. Life is too short for pessimism.
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